Do We Like Advice?
Do you like giving advice? Or being given advice? What is the role of advice in today’s human relationships? How do the new generation pedagogues see the parents or other elder family members giving advice to the younger ones? The fact that we get into an apologizing mode when we happen to be in a situation of giving advice or an ennui rushes when somebody starts to give us advice indicates that today’s man is not really on good terms with advice. I am not talking about the kind, the context, the amount of advice here (though each of these requires a fine care); I am talking about the very idea of giving advice itself. (And check out the Quranic verse: 7/79)
While we cannot stand just hearing some advices, we are ready to pay a whole lot of money for some others. We usually find advices about our beliefs, morals, social duties and religious requirements as interference in our private lives and thus unacceptable, but for those professional advices about our health, careers, wellbeing of our marriages and success of our children, we pay a small fortune.
However, one of the names of the Quran is “dhikr”, meaning advice and reminder (Quran 68/52). It defines its purpose as “giving advice” (Quran 10/57) and the Prophet in Quranic terms is only a “muthekkir”, a reminder (Quran 88/21). Both give advices. The Quran does so through words, the Prophet through all the ways of his existence: his words, his actions, his silence…
From the companions who used to go to listen to the Prophet alternately in order not to miss any of his advice (advice necessarily includes knowledge here), how have we turned into today’s Muslims who scorn the advice and the adviser? How did the institution of preachers, for example, which is established to give people advice, become subject to our own disdain? Wasn’t it the prophetic profession given its feature of a “muthekkir”?
Our attitude towards advice has a clear connection to our personality traits. The arrogant ones who have no doubt that they know and do the best of everything are not only completely shut off to listening to advice, but their way of giving advice is not for the purpose of betterment either, but is a method of mortifying. It is the principle of the humble ones who prioritize their improvement and the salvation of their loved ones to always be open to listen to and be willing to give advice, provided that they respect the manners. They are the ones who, for the sake of what they advise about (the truth), compromise their ego (nafs) when listening to advice and compromise their social status when giving advice. They are to be highly appreciated.
Do not say “what difference does it make whether you give advice or not” because we are not responsible for the results but for the process. “The admonition will be received by those who fear (Allah).” (Quran 87/10)Fatma Bayram
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What They're Saying
We are living in a world of people with weary hearts. All those weary hearts are in need of the breath of Prophet Muhammad, upon him be peace, which is full of love and mercy. Our view of the human being has changed much; we are in need of his mercy-laden vision. We all need to hold onto his vision of the universe and that sacred hand embracing nature.
Thus, the launch of a web portal Project to introduce the Prophet of Islam in the most accurate way to the entire world, correct the misinformation about him and dispel prejudice by a group of women who are devotees of the Prophet is a significant step.Prof Mehmet Görmez
Director of Turkish Religious Affairs
I congratulate Meridyen Association, because this step has a great significance. Its impact will not remain limited to Turkey; this step will be the milestone of a project that will be reflected throughout the entire world. I believe that Lastprophet.info will be the transmitter of accurate and reliable information.
I pray that this meaningful project will yield positive results.Recep Tayyip Erdoğan
Prime Minister of Turkey
I think that the lastprophet.info web portal will be very successful as long as it emphasizes, in an authentic fashion, the most universal and spiritual teachings of the Prophet Muhammad, and especially the ethical norms by which he lived, taught and set an example.Prof Seyyed Hossein Nasr
Professor of Islamic Studies at the George Washington University, Washington D.C.
Through the Lastprophet.info project our friends are attempting to re-inform the world of our heritage and revive a “second era of teaching,” taking the Qur’an as reference, and using all available technology.Ertuğrul Günay
Turkish Minister of Culture and Tourism
Websites like the lastprophet.info and any other academic works that teach about Islam and the Prophet Muhammad, upon him be peace, particularly providing accurate information that challenge some of the myths which have been deliberately placed into the heart of western society, whether it be in terms of the Prophet’s teachings or his personal life, are crucial at this time.Lord Nazir Ahmad
Member of the UK House of Lords
Not only the Muslims but also the whole humanity is in need of knowing the Prophet. For, according to Holy Qur’an and our belief as Muslims, he has been sent as a mercy not only to the material universe, but to all the worlds – material and spiritual, physical and transcendental. Therefore, introducing the Prophet to humanity is one of the most important services to humankind. Many means had been used to this end in the past. The contemporary world is identified as the age of information and communication wherein new means, methods and channels, hitherto unconceivable, have been discovered to transmit knowledge. So we must use all of these channels as a means to properly acquaint both Muslims and humanity with the beloved Prophet. As such, I welcome this web portal project as a very significant project of the modern age.Prof Hayrettin Karaman
Professor of Islamic law and Daily Columnist
We are now discovering history, you and me, and the Turkish people, and the Bosnians, we are discovering Islam now; you are discovering Prophet Muhammad through Lastprophet.info… We are all discovering ourselves…We are together in this boat of discovery.Dr Mustafa Cerić
Grand Mufti (Reis-ul-Ulema) of Bosnia-Herzegovina
A great success! The Meridyen Association’s achieving such success in just a year’s time gives us all great happiness and hope for the future.
Meridyen Association presents a model project for us all with its web portal project, Lastprophet.info. I congratulate them.Prof Mustafa Çağırıcı
Grand Mufti of Istanbul